Anyone ever heard of the term Ambivert? A person whose personality has a balance of introvert and extrovert features. While I would say I still lean towards being an introvert on most days, I definitely get extroverted bursts.
I learned this term while listening to an Impact Theory podcast with Vanessa Van Edwards. How to Liberate Yourself from Social Anxiety. Video below.
I HIGHLY recommend watching this one people. I started listening and honestly couldn’t help but pull out a notebook and start taking notes.
One of the coolest things I learned was the Big 5 Personality Traits. Or OCEAN.
O- Openness. How adventurous you are.
C- Conscientious. How organized you are or how you like routine.
E- Extroversion. How you like being around people.
A- Agreeableness. How you work in teams.
N- Neurotic. How you approach worry.
There is a test you can take here to figure out where you stand on this scale.
I’m basically a highly neurotic introvert who doesn’t typically seek out new experiences. I’m improving on that last bit there.
I was so intrigued when Vanessa was speaking about having a neurotic personality. It sounds so negative, but it really just means that people on the highly neurotic scale have a harder time self-soothing. They are more likely to hang motivational quotes around their house (hello, my room is a god damn inspirational poster) because they need external reminders that everything is going to be okay. High neurotics also have a harder time producing serotonin.
My biggest take away here was the importance of “knowing how you are wired versus fighting it”. I feel like I’ve spent half my life fighting how I am, and I’m looking at myself for the first time with a new pair of eyes. So thank you Impact Theory and Vanessa Van Edwards!
I obviously couldn’t resist buying Vanessa’s book “Captivate: The Science to Succeeding with People”. You can get it on Amazon here. I will probably do a book review at some point.
Hope you all are able to listen to the podcast and learn a bit more about yourself. Let me know how you rank on the Big 5 Personality Test!